My First Blog

When I first heard the song `Lonely` by Akon, I fell in love with it. The song featured the emotions of a guy who had lost everything and felt that was it for him in the world. But being a song, you don`t really tend to take the words seriously every time....and I didn`t.

Today something happened when I was talking to a friend of mine. It was a slight discussion about how she didn`t like me asking her if everything was ok. What I found disturbing was the fact that she didn`t open up to anyone when she was sad or upset and just kept everything to herself. At times like these, she just cries to herself and lets the whole thing eat her up.

According to me, trying to hide such feelings is not good for any individual. You have alot of emotions built up inside you, and every one of them should be in balance. If we happy, we love to share it with the world. Then why not do so when we sad? There is a very famous saying in Hindi, which translates to "Happiness when shared is doubled, and sadness when shared is halved". When we want to double our joy, then why don`t we want to half our sorrows? We always tell others that we there for them all the time and stand with them in their time of sorrow, then why not we have someone stand with us in our time of sorrow?

Sadness is an emotion which only puts you into a shell and burns you up inside. If we don`t share out this sadness, this fire inside us gets bigger and begins to burn us up more, until a time comes when it burns you up so much that you don`t have the strength to come out and face the world. When something like this happens, you do not end up having anyone with you, and then u stuck in your shell till the end.

In our lifetime, we make a load of friends and a good amount of very good friends among them. These friends are people who stay with us and give us happiness in life. They are obviously going to be there to help us out in our time of need. Friends come and go; we cannot keep the same friends throughout our lifetime. Why then do we find reasons to shy away from such people when they are still there with us?

I have a colleague of mine, who is pretty much the same kind of character. From my experience with him, we have realized that people now are not very comfortable keeping their acquaintance with him for the simple reason that he is too moody. Whenever he has a problem, he keeps it to himself, for a reason which only he knows of. However, in such times, as he is burning up inside, he tends to become aggressive with the other colleagues, who are obviously in a jovial mood. Spoiling their mood only makes matters worse as he now has people who begin to keep distance from him. And what for? Just because he didn`t want to share his problems and hopefully find a solution for it? Not worth it I tell you.

Sorrow is as much a part of life as is happiness. But excess of either one is bad for us. What we need to learn is how to overcome the floods of either of them. Obviously, this is not something that can be taught to anyone, as every individual would have his own way of doing such things. But then we can always try the simple task of sharing it with our friends. No one said to share it with anyone; you can choose anyone from your trustworthy friends. After all, that`s what friends are for. Then you don`t have to say...Lonely.I am so lonely, I have nobody for my own...!!!


Sincerely
Clyde from the Colony.

All characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.